Going through my friends’ statuses on social media I came across many similar statues, where uploading friends’ pictures they were tagged as “My unofficial family,” the other tagged them as “my friends come foremost, rest are others”. Were these so unlikely to catch your attention, no they weren’t. But if you contemplate they actually are. Being students, office workers and/or even free lancers we spend half of the day outside our houses premises, if otherwise at homes a free lancer is glued to the virtual world busy submitting work that makes their presence as unlikely as others. And outside, one utterly needs friends to make life and work both manageable with team work. Friends absolutely cover and cater an integral part of our emotional life and every one has got to keep one so as to offer us the best of emotional decadence. We ought to value them for they are precious in terms of our relations with them. But when we enter onto a state where we value a relation more than others is where the dilemma begins. In Pakistan our cultural hierarchy begins with prioritizing the parents and immediate family members at the top, our blood relatives next and the extended family and so on and so forth. The irony today has begun when the children today have rearranged the hierarchy with the scanty awareness they have. Slumber parties, brunches, get-togethers with friends are seen highly prevailing in our culture. On the contrary abandoning or missing a close relative wedding, parties or family fests are going parallel to them. Intermingling more with acquaintances, narrating them each and every of their house hole matters. On one hand Sharing secrets, feelings and adventurous plans with the friends and on the other hand hiding everything from the family brings in dreadful repercussions to the family and the society as well. This can be judged with the increasing number of juvenile delinquents in our society. A friend, who is a one sided listener, is vulnerable to giving their friends the solutions that work best for them irrespective of the aftermath it will have. No matter how old they grow, their experience always remains less than that of one’s parent. A place that was to be given to your elder sister or brother is the one your friends’ enjoy. Defying the family values the children fail to recognize the importance and obligations of their parents and guardians. And unconsciously begin with overpowering the commands and orders they ought to obey set forth by their parents. Quarrelling with parents, placing their friends’ verdict more that them has weakened the parent bond child too. One incident I clearly remember and serve as a reminiscent for me and my family when we see such children, we were invited to our relatives’ house for some dinner party, and their only child who used to play with us for hours, that day entered the room for the sole purpose of getting her bag from the drawer. With a slight beam on face she greeted me and my sisters distance away and hurriedly rushed to her room for she with her friends was having a group chat on the social media, defying her mothers orders to sit with us and the other guests she kept herself locked in the room enjoying chatting with the friends. The same girl who valued cousins more before now signified the friends more than us. Unconsciously following a culture that prevails in the west, where sadly no relations are valued or even respected. Their life revolves around partying with friends, getting trapped in immoral attitudes and at the end either die in vain or a life wasted. Their agony in relationships can be judged when parents wait for their children to turn 18 so that they can leave the house and start living on their own independently. One in Pakistan can’t even imagine leaving their children as such. But one has to take utmost care in raising, with passing them not the knowledge we were granted with by our parents we are making them more vulnerable to loosing the precious family values.
Fashion that start intense and stays intense
Teachers across DHA reveal their fashion secrets. Be ready to welcome fashion in your world as they guide you with their expert fashion tips. With fashion tips so perfect that all eyes will be on you.
Get ready as we will now be unlocking their preferred brands, where do they buy their accessories from and the wow factor that makes them stand out among all!
MA’AM NEHDIA’S TALE: I, no more than 20 minutes, spend time getting my self all done for college. When it comes to adorning my self with clothes Sana Safinaz, Bareeze and Arooshi are all what I prefer and since they are all ready I just have to get it stitched by my tailor. She plans to wear subtle colors like peaches, light blues, pinks this summer. Gucci and Coach have always topped my priority when it comes to handbags. Shiseido in cosmetics gives me a natural radiant look. A lipstick is all what I carry in my purse when it comes to cosmetics. With all-shoes is her one pre-requisite which she feels her dress code is incomplete without.
Suggesting her students she prefers every girl should be fond of good fashion. Dress up what suits you best, most importantly wear fine makeup.
She admires her mother the most when it comes to fashion and rates herself an average fashion person.
MA’AM SADAF’S BEST KEPT SECRET: For me it’s all about looking beautiful and pleasing. I always try to bring new things to the table. I spend nearly 12-15 minutes on all what it takes to get ready for college. Her dressing style depicts her fondness towards good clothes and classy accessories. I prefer wearing Khaadi, Threads- the duo has always topped my likeness. For her a proper ironed neat dress completes her outlook and avoids leaving home without it.
She was attired in a Khaadi dress with a subtle golden Guess wrist watch and Gul Ahmed’s sassy yellow handbag where as her slippers were from Tree Foot Wear. She designs herself. At most she carries a couple of lip glosses in her bag during college hours. She plans to wear light pastel colors for upcoming summer.
Her style statement is all about carrying herself well, and getting dressed up according to the place or event she is in, in a way that affirms her personality explicitly everywhere.
She suggests girls to look neat and clean in college, and wear light color glosses and smell good.
According to her, in order to show variety one needs a constant and for her she feels is keeping myself up-to-date with the latest trends and fashions.
MA’AM SANA’S FASHION ANALYSIS: ma’am Sana says it all revealing her fashion secrets. Spending no more than 20 minutes to get ready, she leaves for college. Fresh faced and dressed in Khaadi kurta kolapuri’s from Uzma , with Guess’s watch around her wrist and a bag from Big Buddha’s creation hung perfectly on her hand. Her usual bag to college is filled with a wallet, lip gloss, keys, some pens, grocery bills and her phone.
She considers herself a not-too-brand conscious and prefers anything that appeals and appears blending to her taste. Nevertheless prefers Khaadi and Ego selectively and clinique’s mineral make-up according to her blends well with her skin.
She tags, simple yet trendy as her fashion statement.
With an easy going fashionable life style she prefers ready to wear kurta and at times design her clothes too.
She considers her fashion incomplete until she wears her wrist watch.
When asked to suggest colors for summers she replied “lemonade” with a smile.
She rates herself one on one as she sincerely believes in her right of individuality because everyone has their own way of carrying themselves.
MA’AM NUDRAT’S VIGOUR FASHON LINE: MA’AM Nudrat’s start off with her working day by spending an exact of half an hour getting all set for college. Known for her rosy complexion that glows with a hint of pink and distinctive fashion sense all over the college ma’am nudrat consider herself no fashion obsessed and prefers all what appeals her be it a clutch from Sunday bazaar or a pair of heels from DA vinci. She loves accessorizing herself with lots of rings and considers her fashion incomplete without them.
Her fluffy bag holds in it a wallet, clips, cell phone, to do list and surprisingly no cosmetics and a number of hymns written on various paper card which according to her gives her a sense of spiritual well being. She possesses special love for Kaulapuris which she buys exclusively from Uzma. Counting on international and national brands for makeup, Max Factor and color studio tops her priority lists.
Her style statement emphasizes on standing out from rest of the crowd.
She suggested that every woman must dress, walk and talk according to her age as according to her these qualities get refined as she ascends her age. Expressing her love with pinks she says if a girl wants to look appealing she has to wear pink no matter what season it is! She looks up to her mother when it comes to fashion and Rated herself 4 on 10 as she feels there’s always room for improvement.
MA’AM BOKHARI’S FASHION DYNAMISM:
A lady known highly for her versatility in teaching as well as fashion none other than Ma’am Bokhari talks about her fashion persona. She spends in total an hour getting all ready for college. Attired in her crown creation with shiny hair that lay freely on her shoulders she carried with her a rectangular pastel colored hand band that managed in it her credit cards, perfumes, bills and combs along with Prada glasses that rested above her head and wore a pair of heels from Charles and Keith. Makeup products from Lancome and Clinique have always been her preference and possess love for Cool Water and Sunflower when it comes to perfumes. She mentioned her deep inclination towards Sapphire and Emerald. She firmly believes that one should always stick to her individuality and try marveling more on what quality she has been granted by nature so that they can come up with a polished personality. Fond of clothing to such an extent she scrutinizes a dress well from its cuts to colors before buying it and suggests others to do so.
She emphasized that for a girl to look appealing she should possess excellent communication skills as it’s the inner personality that captivates others and sparkles an individual outlook. A girl should be confidant enough to face the world and she emphasized that grooming classes should now become a part of every college.
She looks up to Iffat Rahem when it comes to fashion. She denied rating herself in fashion as her fashion scale has no limitations and everyday has something new to go with.
This is all what our fashion police has to offer… and this is all what we have to say ..
An effort by me and my friend sara saleemthat was published in my college’s news letter.
Prisoner Sanaullah…err? Fumbled half of my group friends, the thickening folds on their foreheads with the slight doubtful nod, gave me the notion that not even one could relate to what I planned to discuss today.
None could even relate to the current heightened LOC (line of control) tensions let alone of any single prisoner suffering at the hand of Indian jailers where Aleem and Rashida, Qateel who were tortured and killed respectively and handed over to Pakistan back late in 2008, can certainly not go unnoticed.
Being of the opinion that every individual should and must keep an eye on the political uprising of the country, to me it came up as amazement when hardly any could even recollect the slightest fact regarding any of those.
Despondently this is the case with not just my group mates but the entire youth where we are to busy to prod over such issues.
One can out rightly claim that the perceiving dimensions of our children have changed, in terms of evaluating the political and social scenario of our country.
On the one hand when Pakistan stands contended of being home to largest number of youth, according to UNICEF estimated around 35% of the entire population, the youth in turn exhibit the least concerned what mishaps and killing their people go through across their border.
On the contrary we see eminent news paper highlighting Indian students protesting on the main stream. Recently flocked in large numbers the students expressing resentment on the rape of their female counterpart, preceding the protest held in Delhi where hundreds of them rose against the suicide bid of a private college student in Delhi and even are their young adults at par when expressing grieve concerns at their mate who recently got brutally hit by a javelin on his way to school.
Likewise, our problems are no different than ours, to what they come out for protests at, simply go unnoticed for us. Or many a times we express gloom with their immediate occurrence and the next moment we flip off our channel and continue with our left over serials.
The recent rape incidents, these killing in the name of honor-car accidents, teachers punishing their students to death and lot more are gaining grounds gradually. They can at no cost be ignored because we value lives not just of ours but even our non-Muslim brethrens. And one can’t hide or exempt himself/herself just because we are the ones not affected at the hand of evil mongers.
Lets not forget that lives are never to be weighed on the mere importance of financial status but lives are precious as even the Quran states: “if any one slew a person … it would be as if he slew the whole humanity: and if any one saved a person, it would be as if he saved the whole humanity”.
Epitomizing a human life is what Islam teaches us, irrespective of the individuals cast, creed color or even nationality.
Our society has been hijacked by several dimensions and prompt changes are to be implemented. We are to dig these heinous acts deep and butcher their roots. For they will keep on tarnishing our status our integrity. We the descendents of Muhammad (PBUH) –the noblest of all- have the uber responsibility on our shoulders to impart his message of kindness and humanism.
The act of rendering and bringing justice is no easy in a society. But we as the youth need to be aware of even the slightest mishap that occurs in our country. Let’s start with the area we live, the society we are a part of and then gradually getting bigger in dimensions at least catering the most immediate possible services to our society.
When we claim to be the game changers of our society we ought to look deep into every uprising issue of our country. When we claim to take in the powers residing at the hands of the status quo we are to assure our selves that we are aware of what goes in and our country. For who is being unjustly treated and who needs justice. Just expressing grieves concern with a slight nod, or engaging in fury discussion within our bedrooms are no potential measures.
Let’s step out, for”the actual life begins at the end of our comfort zones.
Media’s rapid outgrowth in today’s world outweighs that of any. It wouldn’t be wrong, I reckon, if we label it as a cultural canvas that has and is influencing our people. Invading a country in physical terms might not be that harmful as when minds are invaded mentally, for physical invasion after a certain period of time wipes of itself but when cloaks over shadow a psyche it nearly gets impossible to wipe the dirt off.
Our country is the one suffering these heinous invasions at the hands of our neighboring country. Of interest, it’s not just them but our gate keepers that assures a successful transaction of their culture into our homes and their to our minds. The cultural invasion of India in soaring heights in our very own country. Ranging from the product placement to TV serials to reality shows to animated cartoons. The idea behind these varied genres of programs makes one watch if not all then any one of it, there by ensuring a wide audience range, in a country where almost all age groups thrives and fetches onto a program somewhat different to that of theirs.
Indian media as we all know is to a great extent a living embodiment of their religious, cultural and spiritual rituals not even a single serial is shown without any of these. The cultural invasion, sadly, is met with great enthusiasm in Pakistan where they overshadow our advertisements by telecasting theirs. Such fierce is their cultural penetration into ours.
Pakistani culture never witnessed such an era where an entire family saw intimate scenes or obscenity with the rest of their family, even a girl without duppata was overlooked in search of other more appropriate channel, but now with their dense cultural invasion into ours actresses wearing sleeveless, tan tops minis are graciously welcomed in our society in an attempt to meet the requirements of modern era or else people are labeled as too backward.
As young minds are easy to transform and mould, they target our children with their young religious caricatures. Eg. Choota beam, Hanuman two eminent cartoons seen by nearly half of our country’s children- depicts the lives of their Gods sons where they are shown practicing their hindu rituals and attains spirituality and super powers. To one’s amusement the cartoons hold such a huge impact on our children that they are seen imitating the same rituals and meet each other with hands enjoined as a gesture of goodwill as seen in Hindu culture.
bollywood since as long as one can remember has over shadowed our industry. statement is clearly depicted by the fact when our people run to see their movies forming long queues despite of its inhumane content against our cultural norms and make sure he/she doesn’t miss it. The cultural invasion can be measured in terms of their events gradually becoming a part of ours like valentines, Halloween parties, holii (where colors are smashed onto one another) have become a part of our culture and is seen as a growing trend in large among our youth.
Their usages of slang words have even tarnished the politeness and simplicity of our language as one intently ought to speak theirs to compete with their peers.
Indian dramas with their growing profundity in Pakistan are seen eradicating our cultural norms and bringing on theirs. Ironically, compounding their efforts is our very own media strengthening their roots in ours by telecasting an abundant of their soaps nearly the entire week. Dramas such as achey lagtey hain, pariwaar, qubool hey,being at the top charts with favorable amount of viewers ship from our audience.
With every Indian serial come their never ending ritual, and sadly one witness’s sounds of Indian hymns reverberating into every house hold.
In our country where billboards once showcased Islamic verses, motivational sayings or our own celebrity’s endorsing brands have now been replaced by massive Indian celebrities manifesting products, advertisements.
On the contrary when one part of the subcontinent enthusiastically welcomes the content of their rivals, India on the other hand have implied strict rules regarding depiction of Pakistan content onto their TV channels. It was once in August 2009, Indian daily The Asian Age had reported that the Indian government banned Pakistani TV channels in India and it was also planning to establish high-frequency transmitters and towers in the bordering areas to stop transmission of Pakistani programs. Such is the case when it comes to broadcasting our dramas in their land. It is either we all have to stand or pass laws regarding the broadcast of there dramas or else this cultural invasion of theirs into our minds will result in a perpetual threat to our norms and values.
I scratch your back you scratch mine, a pretty organized game being played between the International Cricket council (ICC) and The Board of Control for Cricket India (BCCI) from the past 5-6 years. Ironically, the sweat of contenders is always soaked upon the Pakistani counterparts, who are caught and battered for no reason.
The ICC masters the art of dealing cricket issues, but sadly goes too calm and polite when it comes to revealing the Indian scandals and players’ intentional malfunctioning within the stadium’s premises. On the contrary goes too insensitive over the green shirts. The incident despite two years of its occurrence hasn’t stale for the audience when Mohammad Amir, Mohammad Asif and Salman Butt were caught red handed some where around London and were ridiculed around the globe for the alleged involvement with the spot fixers. The unpleasant episode came as a jaw dropping incident for the entire nation and every passer by seemed awe- struck.
One might be in a phase of healing the past wounds, and atoning of the sins committed, and ICC comes up with an added allegation with every successive year onto the greens. The ball tampering incident, syed ajmal’s bowling action and the list goes on, were probed by the ICC and served to the media critics for a full fledge postmortem of the issue. The channels stood with wide chests and raised eye brows for the exclusivity of tarnishing Pakistan’s image with critics. Pakitani media never did leave itself behind and were one among the ridiculers, after all it’s all about ratings that make for the bread and butter of the media personals, and their own country’s integrity means nothing when it comes to business and making money out of it.
Indian Premier League (IPL) one of the biggest cricket events held across India and tends to grow more grand and glamorous with every year is now labeled as a living embodiment of corruption. The organizers who were adamant about it being fair and sound, all the poise was strewn to sand when their players were involved in match fixing. Effigies of Shresanth and two others from Rajasthan royals were burnt ferociously by their Indian fans with raged criticism for spoiling their country’s image world wide. To people it more came as amazement than a shock for it didn’t come to their wildest imagination the Indian media and the ICC shredding their players’ integrity publicly. A news people longed for and took it as a revenge for their past accusations onto their own players.
The ICC epitomizes itself for its speedy and rapid investigation over the players malfunctioning irrespective of their nationalities but it’s been more than a couple of days the issues seems stagnant and ICC or the Indian police gives the impression of being too helpless to look for evidences.
This intimidating incident has included the Indian flock into the ICC’s scrutiny after all it’s just the green shirts that has faced the tyranny.
What ever happens-happens for good a popular proverb taught to people living in an unpredictable country like Pakistan where one never knows what the next moment has to offer the individual with this they forgo the mishaps and some similar incident was seen few years ago when the Pakistani players were snubbed from IPL. Thanks to the Almighty we don’t own any of the potential players currently playing in IPL for if, God forbid, either of the charged players would have been a Pakistani, not just him but us and his generations to come would have to suffer the disgrace and the rest would have escaped from the scene with some cloak aided by the ICC- their partners in crime.
Media today can certainly be labeled as too intrusive as to decide our children’s waist length. Likewise the TV commercials have proved their viability when one becomes irresistible to any tempting food beverage advertises and at the end of the day we see long queues at every eatery outlet be it be it any of the popular fast food chain or a mini burger shop located at your nearest fast food hub.
It is not just those burger ads with oozing cheese and pepperoni like mouth watering ingredients that reinforces one to get to the restaurants in the shortest possible time but those over sized soft drinks which describes your meal an incomplete package of main course if any one ought to miss those.
Compounding to one’s obesity the chocolates and our very famous desi sweets lets not forget those lumps of mithai dipped in thick sugary syrups stimulate our taste buds further. When one gets to decide their entire meal with a single press on a button they hardly bother to stand up and cook something for them selves. Instead they make a phone call and order meal, in all converting the very virtual ad into stacks of packed meals, within fraction of seconds.
Their magnetic influence never ceases to amuse us but the adverse affects these advertisements are having on us and our children is a matter of growing concern. Because now days the children instead of getting taller are growing wider. This widened plump not just hinders their physical movement but hampers their mental abilities. In such a way that most of their time gets consumed pondering over what to eat and what not. They are now becoming food centric and more prone to becoming slugs.
Now days it’s not just the video games that glues children to their seats but also their never ending priority list of food eatables which is seen highly soaring with the growing number of food commercials. This has entangled our youth in such a bewildering fanaticism of food mania that nothing seems more appealing to them other than plan how to stuff their every growing bellies.
These obesity related problems are giving rise to acute as well as chronic ailments when weakens ones immune system. This automatically makes children vulnerable to diseases.
Nevertheless, parents in their way of expressing love tend to buy more such food for their children but the actual problem arises when the same parent realizes that their child’s clothes are no more available in normal shops, instead they serve hours looking for those XXL for their tiny toots. Changing their entire wardrobe every month. And so here it is another dilemma at our doorstep.